“Bad Feminist” Roxane Gay: Is “Instagram Perfect” Holding You Back from Self-Acceptance?

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Author, "bad feminist", and cultural icon Roxane Gay believes that self-acceptance isn’t a destination – in a society obsessed with robotic perfectionism, embracing our messy, complex humanity is a radical mindset. She attempts to welcome the parts that don’t fit the mold of her “ideal” self, including her trauma, fatness, age, lack of self-love and finding romance later in life. Roxane chooses acceptance over shame, nuance over binaries, and grace over judgement for herself and others. How would you feel if you forgave yourself for your short-comings and mistakes? We’re excited to cultivate a deeper connection with our incredible community this season! Stay tuned on our Instagram @Stylelikeu to contribute your questions, thoughts, feedback, and ideas. We can’t wait to hear from you. Submit a question https://forms.gle/qBSPjn88TWYSRAaN8 or DM us about topics you’d like us to discuss in our monthly mother-daughter “Don’t Change a Thing” episodes. Watch our previous "Don't Change a Thing" episode: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=5pNL3a-WVcM Subscribe: https://www.youtube.com/@StyleLikeU1 FOLLOW STYLELIKEU: @Stylelikeu SUBSCRIBE TO OUR NEWSLETTER: StyleLikeU.com FOLLOW Roxane Gay: @Roxanegay74 Director: Elisa Goodkind Producer and editor: Kimberly Henry Casting: India Isaacson 0:00 - 1:30 Intro 1:30 - 3:00 Introversion 3:00 - 4:00 Perfectionism vs excellence 4:00 - 4:40 Mistakes 4:40 - 6:00 Bad Feminist 6:00 - 7:20 Kindness 7:20 - 11:20 Regulation 11:20 - 15:30 Roxane’s style 15:30 - 17:10 Taking up space 17:10 - 19:00 Getting out of my own way 19:00 - 20:00 People pleasing 20:00 - 22:00 Taking risks 22:00 - 23:00 New book 23:00 - 26:00 Living in a fat body 26:00 - 27:30 I stopped hiding from the world 27:30 - 30:00 Trauma and healing 30:00 - 32:30 Healing 32:30 - 34:00 Process of recovery 34:00 - 35:00 40’s are favorite decade 35:00 - 37:30 Inspired by young women 37:30 - 38:40 Self-love 38:40 - 39:10 Writing is vulnerable 39:10 - 39:50 I feel beautiful 39:50 - 40:30 Roxane’s happy relationship 40:30 - 42:22 Love at first sight and taking it slow 42:22 - 44:00 Healthy love 44:00 - 45:30 Self-acceptance 45:30 - 49:40 Roxane’s mom 49:40 - 50:30 Wildest dream 50:30 - 54:30 External validation 54:30 - 56:10 Be a writer! #stylelikeu #Roxanegay #Badfeminist