Dr. Alduan Tartt: There are a lot of men in relationships who don't even like women

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#therapist #relationships #vaultempowers In this powerful conversation, Brandi Harvey sits down with Dr. Alduan Tartt to unpack some uncomfortable truths about modern dating and marriage. They discuss why many men are in relationships with women they don’t actually like, how narcissism shows up in today’s relationships, and why more women, especially high-earning women, are choosing peace, purpose, and independence over traditional marriage. They also explore the emotional toll marriage can take on women, the societal expectations placed on them, and what it really costs to stay in relationships that no longer serve you. This episode challenges long-held beliefs and invites honest reflection about love, power, and partnership in today’s world. 💬 Do you agree or disagree? Share your thoughts in the comments below. 0:00 — Intro 5:03 — Why more women don’t want marriage today 6:26 — Why traditional gender roles no longer work 7:14 — What men really want but won’t ask for: help 9:16 — Why marriage benefits men more than women 16:53 — The 3 questions you must ask while dating 20:54 — Many men want relationships but don’t like women 22:34 — The difference between givers and takers in marriage 23:13 — How mother wounds create toxic masculinity 26:27 — Why women leave relationships emotionally first 27:49 — Father wounds and people-pleasing 31:45 — Why some men avoid marriage altogether 34:21 — What “micro-relationships” really are 46:49 — Foreplay starts long before the bedroom 48:31 — Libido mismatch is killing marriages 49:24 — Why men don’t know how to last longer 49:39 — The intimacy questionnaire that saves marriages 50:36 — Porn vs real intimacy 51:37 — Why sex becomes boring in long marriages 52:07 — Faith-based couples deserve amazing sex too 52:24 — Is purity culture setting people up to fail? 54:11 — Know your body before choosing a partner 55:56 — Why many men chose celibacy before marriage 59:45 — Why some men want virgins 1:01:12 — How libido distorts attraction 1:01:52 — Women’s libido rises in their late 30s and 40s 1:02:26 — Women are glowing up and men are falling off 1:03:25 — Testosterone, stamina, and confidence decline 1:06:12 — Transparency leads to transformation 1:07:26 — Why faith-based relationships need practical tools 1:08:11 — How to talk about sexual needs without offense 1:08:55 — Why unmet needs lead to infidelity 1:10:44 — Knowing your own temptations 1:14:48 — Men learning how to appreciate their wives 1:16:05 — Why couples improve faster in community 1:16:56 — One word for this season: ACTION 1:18:08 — Why most couples were never taught how to love well Stay connected with Dr. Alduan Tartt: Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/drtartt/ Facebook - https://www.facebook.com/dralduantartt Facebook - https://www.facebook.com/drtartt/ LinkedIn - https://www.linkedin.com/in/drtartt/ X - https://x.com/drtartt Threads - https://www.threads.com/@drtartt DrTartt.com - Personal website BetterHusbandBetterWife.com - Marriage resources and live classes TransformingCircle.com - Mental health resources and live classes for faith community Stay connected with us: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/vaultempowers X: https://twitter.com/vaultempowers Vault Empowers Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/vaultempowers Vault Empowers Talks Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/VaultEmpowersTalks TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@vaultempowers YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/vaultempowers Twitch: https://www.twitch.tv/vaultempowers New episodes of Vault Empowers Talks - Season 3 every Thursday at 10AM EST! Turn your post notifications on now, so you never miss an upload. Check out Vault Empowers Talks - Season 1 and 2 below ↓ Season 1: https://youtube.com/playlist?list=PLq9-OsMbkHW8wkgs8xdBtO5BQueIvcK4s&si=ie4-YuXubULZf44K Season 2: https://www.youtube.com/playlist?list=PLq9-OsMbkHW-UIdG9LjAC-uogMN_pK3fz Subscribe to our email list: https://share.hsforms.com/1ZWzWkNc0RIagwhZqN3gjWwefqja Vault Empowers is a media platform that inspires people to feel their best and live their best lives. We tell stories that shift your mindset and the culture.