I Waited for You to be Ready but Now I’m 40 and Childless I Where Should We Begin? with Esther Perel

Esther Perel May 12, 2025
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Welcome to the official YouTube page of Esther Perel. Psychotherapist, podcaster, and New York Times bestselling author Esther Perel is one of today’s most insightful voices on modern relationships. Fluent in nine languages, she runs a therapy practice in New York City, consults for Fortune 500 companies, and has captivated global audiences with her bestselling books, Mating in Captivity and The State of Affairs, which are translated into over 30 languages worldwide. She is the host of the critically acclaimed podcast Where Should We Begin?, and has appeared onstage all over the world , from TED (talks have received over 40 million views) to SXSW to Cannes Lions. Subscribe to access expert resources to help you navigate the ever-evolving landscape of modern relationships — at home, at work, and everywhere in between. This YouTube channel is home to my podcast Where Should We Begin? For additional bonus content, join my community on Substack, Entre Nous.

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Esther Calling - I Waited for You to be Ready but now I’m 40 and Childless: Conflict & Polarization | Where Should We Begin? with Esther Perel On this week's episode of Where Should We Begin? with Esther Perel:  They were in love for 6 years and building a life together. They froze embryos and agreed on a timeline for getting pregnant. But when the time came, he wavered, and the relationship fell apart. Now she finds herself alone, angry, scared, and having to rethink her definition of family. She asks Esther, how she can remain hopeful when everything feels so lost? Topic - Conflict & Polarization Chapters 00:00 Introduction: The Dilemma of Freezing Eggs and Embryos 00:37 Personal Story: Separation and Frozen Embryos 03:37 Therapy and Communication Breakdown 06:04 Decisions and Realizations 08:24 Financial and Emotional Struggles 12:10 Reflecting on the Relationship 16:07 The Intersection of Faith and Reality 24:56 Self-Forgiveness and Moving Forward 26:39 Navigating Overwhelm: Step-by-Step Guidance 27:54 Unraveling the Relationship: What Went Wrong? 28:57 The Quest for Clarity and Understanding 33:41 Exploring Alternative Paths to Parenthood 37:47 Managing Emotions and Seeking Support 43:58 Final Thoughts and Reflections About Where Should We Begin?: Every Monday morning, step into the office of iconic psychotherapist Esther Perel and listen in as real people in search of insight bare the raw, intimate, and profound details of their stories. From breakups and open relationships to workplace conflicts and fractures in the family, it’s a place to hear our own stories reflected in the lives of others. About Esther Perel: Psychotherapist, relationship expert, and New York Times bestselling author Esther Perel is recognized as one of today’s most insightful and original voices on modern relationships. Fluent in nine languages, she helms a therapy practice in New York City and serves as an organizational consultant for Fortune 500 companies around the world. Her celebrated TED Talks have garnered more than 40 million views and her bestselling books, Mating in Captivity and The State of Affairs, are global phenomena translated into more than 30 languages. Esther is also the host of the hit podcast Where Should We Begin? which is available on Apple Podcasts. Learn more at EstherPerel.com or by following @EstherPerelOfficial on Instagram.