Lies you're told about marriage in your twenties.

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Weird laws, divorce and expenses... what YOU need to know about weddings. JOIN THE GUMPTION CLUB: https://www.patreon.com/thegumptionclub Sign up to the newsletter! https://leenanorms.substack.com/subscribe INSTAGRAM: http://instagram.com/leenanorms 00:00 intro 01:50 Marriages are ancient romantic ceremonies 04:17 Marriage is a step towards building a perfect relationship 05:25 Not marrying makes me really rad 06:38 You have to have a wedding to have a marriage 10:43 Eco friendly weddings 12:52 Marriage is an agreement between me and my partner 14:45 If it doesn’t work out, just get divorced 17:23 You only gain rights when you get married 21:22 Misogyny is over 23:22 Marriage has always been the same SOURCES C1: TED-Ed, 2014, ‘The history of marriage’, https://youtu.be/ZZZ6QB5TSfk Insider, 2017, ‘We've all been tricked into thinking you need a diamond to get engaged’, https://www.insider.com/why-do-we-propose-with-diamond-rings-2017-4 C2: Frank Loesser, c.1950, ‘Marry the Man Today’ in ‘Guys and Dolls’, https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=AjXOO81_Cdc C3: Tom Rasmussen, 2021, ‘First Comes Love’, p23 C4: Hitched, 2019, ‘How Much Does a Wedding Cost?’: https://hitched.co.uk/wedding-planning/organising-and-planning/the-average-wedding-cost-in-the-uk-revealed Which?, 2021, ‘How much deposit do you need for a mortgage?’, https://www.which.co.uk/money/mortgages-and-property/mortgages/mortgages-and-deposits-the-basics/how-much-deposit-do-you-need-for-a-mortgage-acs1c3t6f9r0 Bidvine, 2021, ‘How much does counselling cost?’ https://www.bidvine.com/counselling/price-guide C5: Country Living, 2018, ‘British weddings create the same weight as 47 blue whales...’, https://www.countryliving.com/uk/create/country-wedding-ideas/a23730274/british-weddings-create-the-same-weight-as-47-blue-whales-in-plastic-waste-every-year/ IWM, ‘What to wear to a wartime wedding’, https://www.iwm.org.uk/history/what-to-wear-to-a-wartime-wedding, accessed June 2021 C6: The Law Commission, 1992, ‘Criminal law: rape within marriage’, p7, https://assets.publishing.service.gov.uk/government/uploads/system/uploads/attachment_data/file/228746/0167.pdf C7: Money Helper, 2021, ‘How Much Does a Divorce Cost?’, https://www.moneyadviceservice.org.uk/blog/how-much-does-a-divorce-cost The Times, 2020, ‘How much does a divorce cost?’, https://www.thetimes.co.uk/money-mentor/answer/divorce-settlement-entitlements/ School of Life, 2016, ‘Why bother with marriage?’, https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=kp4FLeY6F9g C8: Insider, 2020, ‘A woman was told she needed her husband's permission...’, https://www.insider.com/a-woman-needed-husbands-consent-to-get-her-tubes-tied-2020-2 The Financial Diet, 2020, ‘A Divorce Lawyer On [...] What People Don't Know About Divorce’, https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=WZHUhmCN_fI Co-op Legal, 2020, ‘Can you disinherit your spouse’, https://www.co-oplegalservices.co.uk/media-centre/articles-jan-apr-2017/can-you-disinherit-your-spouse/ Equifax, ‘Marriage and bad debt’, https://www.equifax.co.uk/resources/debt-management/marriage-and-bad-debt.html, accessed 2021 Tom Rasmussen, 2021, ‘First Comes Love’, p49, p57, p80 Tanya Evans, 2005, ‘Unfortunate Objects’, p48 The Guardian, 2011, ‘Mixed race Britain...’, https://www.theguardian.com/society/2011/oct/04/mixed-race-britain-social-history Chamion Caballero, 2018, ‘Mixed Race Britain...’, https://link.springer.com/content/pdf/10.1057%2F978-1-137-33928-7.pdf Gov.uk, ‘Annul a marriage’, https://www.gov.uk/how-to-annul-marriage Age UK, 2021, ‘Financial and legal tips before remarrying’, https://www.ageuk.org.uk/information-advice/health-wellbeing/relationships-family/financial-legal-tips-before-remarrying/ Buzzfeed, 2017, ‘These Couples Say They Can’t Move In Together...’, https://www.buzzfeed.com/laurasilver/these-couples-say-the-disability-benefits-system-is C9: Independent, 2006, ‘The stress of marriage shortens your life...’, https://www.independent.co.uk/life-style/health-and-families/health-news/stress-marriage-shortens-your-life-year-if-you-re-wife-5335547.html Independent, 2016, ‘Husbands “create extra 7 hours of housework a week”’, https://www.independent.co.uk/life-style/husbands-create-extra-seven-hours-housework-week-a6885951.html Kilpi F, 2015, ‘Living Arrangement as determinants of myocardial infarction incidence..., p93-133 Slate, 2014, ‘It’s Not Your Kids Holding Your Career Back. It’s Your Husband’ , https://slate.com/human-interest/2014/11/harvard-business-school-study-it-s-not-kids-but-husbands-that-hold-women-s-careers-back.html Wikipedia, https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Bride#cite_note-1 C10: The High Low, 2020, ‘Selling Sunset, [...] How Often Do YOU Clear Out Your Pants Drawer?’, https://play.acast.com/s/thehighlowshow/sellingsunset-genderedcarework-howoftendoyouclearoutyourpantsdrawer- Tom Rasmussen, 2021, ‘First Comes Love’, p91