Shocking Coping Mechanisms of Fearful Avoidants

Thais Gibson - Personal Development School February 19, 2025
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Welcome! I’m Thais Gibson, best-selling author, counselor, and founder of The Personal Development School™. My work is rooted in Integrated Attachment Theory™, helping people understand their subconscious patterns, heal emotional wounds, and build healthy, secure relationships. On this channel, you’ll learn: ✔ Key insights on attachment styles ✔ Practical tools for emotional regulation & boundaries ✔ Simple frameworks for healthy communication ✔ Subconscious reprogramming & inner healing strategies Want to go deeper? Explore the whole system behind this work at The Personal Development School: https://personaldevelopmentschool.com?utm_source=youtube&utm_campaign=homepage&utm_medium=organic&utm_content=main-channel-link&el=youtube Inside PDS, you’ll find: ✔ 60+ in-depth courses based on Integrated Attachment Theory™ ✔ Step-by-step healing paths for attachment wounds ✔ Live weekly coaching for personalized support Start your deeper transformation today!

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Get personalized courses, live webinars & Q&As, and more for free for 7 days! https://attachment.personaldevelopmentschool.com/dream-life?utm_source=youtube-podcast&utm_campaign=7-day-trial&utm_medium=organic&utm_content=YT-02-05-25&el=youtube-podcast In this episode of The Thais Gibson Podcast, Thais Gibson and co-host Mike break down the most common protest behaviors of the Fearful Avoidant attachment style—the subconscious coping mechanisms that can sabotage relationships, even when they’re meant to soothe. Drawing from personal experiences, Thais and Mike share valuable insights into how Fearful Avoidants may push their partners away while yearning for deeper connection. They discuss: 🗣 Being Harsh With Their Words – Why Fearful Avoidants lash out when triggered 💭 Spiteful Behaviors – The hidden reason they may act out ⏳ Flip-Flopping from Hot to Cold – Why their emotions shift suddenly 💔 Testing by Pushing Away – How they unconsciously assess their partner’s commitment 🧐 Becoming Critical – Why they find flaws to create emotional distance Whether you're navigating a relationship with a Fearful Avoidant or working on your own attachment patterns, this episode offers practical strategies to heal, build secure relationships, and improve emotional communication. Timestamps & Topics Covered: 00:00 - Intro 01:16 - 1 — Being Harsh With Their Words 04:48 - Saying What You Mean vs Speaking Out of Anger 12:31 - 2 — Having Spiteful Behaviors 15:52 - 🎁 7-Day Free Trial: All Access Membership Pass 16:42 - Indirect Behaviors FAs do When They're Upset 24:09 - 3 — Flip-Flopping From Hot to Cold 31:39 - 🚀 Rocket Money Sponsorship 33:31 - Reachers and Settlers in Dating 35:04 - 4 — Testing by Pushing Away 45:33 - 5 — Becoming Critical 48:31 - Conclusion Find Your Attachment Style → Take the free Attachment Quiz https://attachment.personaldevelopmentschool.com/?utm_source=youtube-podcast&utm_campaign=attachment-quiz&utm_medium=organic&el=youtube-podcast Get Thais Gibson’s Book Learning Love → Read Now https://attachment.personaldevelopmentschool.com/learning-love?utm_source=youtube-podcast&utm_campaign=learning-love&utm_medium=organic&el=youtubepodcast Sponsors & Exclusive Discounts: 💦 Get 20% off AquaTru water purifiers with code THAIS → Shop Now 💰 Save money & cancel unwanted subscriptions with Rocket Money → Start Saving 👩‍💼 Get a $75 job credit with Indeed → Find Jobs 🌬️ Save up to $300 on Air Doctor purifiers with promo code THAIS → Shop Now Follow Us for Daily Insights & Relationship Advice: Instagram: @thepersonaldevelopmentschool TikTok: @thaisgibson YouTube: @ThePersonalDevelopmentSchool Loved this episode? Don’t forget to subscribe, rate & review on your favorite podcast platform! Your support helps us reach more people looking for real relationship transformation. #AttachmentTheory #AvoidantAttachment #FearfulAvoidant #RelationshipHealing #AttachmentStyles #ThaisGibson #SelfGrowth #SubconsciousHealing #Podcast

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