Stop Trying To Figure Him Out.

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💕 [APPLY FOR HEAL YOUR HEART SCHOOL] Heal Your Heart School is Open For Enrolment! Schedule a Call Now (Spots Are Limited) https://www.healyourheart.school/call 🗒️ [FREE MASTERCLASS - SPOTS LIMITED] Watch The Proven 3-Step Process to Heal Yourself after a Toxic Relationship Ends https://www.healyourheart.school/webinar ----------------------- You keep trying to figure him out because, deep down, you’re hoping to crack some hidden code that will finally unlock the love, safety, and consistency you’ve always craved. When you’re caught in patterns with emotionally unavailable men, it feels almost impossible to stop analyzing his every move—his words, silences, and mixed signals. This obsession isn’t just about him; it’s about your nervous system still trying to solve the puzzle of your childhood. If you grew up with abandonment issues, neglect, or love that felt conditional, your body wired itself to keep scanning and deciphering others in hopes of earning the security that never came. That loop is the root of love addiction: the pull to make someone who is emotionally unavailable finally choose you, so you can prove to yourself that you’re worthy. But the truth is, no amount of overthinking will change someone else’s emotional unavailability. When you spend your energy trying to figure out why he can’t commit, why he pulls away, or why he feels distant, you’re abandoning yourself all over again. The little girl inside who longed for emotional connection is still running the show, repeating the cycle of chasing after unavailable love. The problem isn’t that you can’t decode him—it’s that your focus is misplaced. What you really need isn’t to understand him, but to understand yourself: your triggers, your patterns, and your unhealed abandonment wounds. That’s where the power lies. The moment you stop trying to figure him out and start turning inward, your healing begins. Abandonment issues healing is about learning how to be emotionally available to yourself first. It’s about practicing self-connection, self-trust, and nervous system regulation so that your worth no longer depends on someone else’s behavior. When you commit to your own healing, you break free from love addiction and step out of the cycle of emotionally unavailable men. You learn how to become emotionally available, not just for future healthy relationships, but for the relationship with yourself. That’s where freedom lives—not in solving him, but in choosing you. In my years as a self love coach, I’ve guided my clients from every possible heartbreaking scenario and breakup, and given them the tools they need to heal their trauma and learn the discipline of self love, so they can embody their most true, authentic and confident self! ----------------------- 🎁 [NO CONTACT GUIDE] How to Heal Self Abandonment and Learn The Discipline of Self Love https://www.healyourheart.school/guide 🔥 [FREE QUIZ] What’s Your Inner Child Archetype? https://www.healyourheart.school/quiz 🌸 [JOIN MY FACEBOOK GROUP] For Women Healing After A Toxic Relationship Ends https://www.healyourheart.school/group ----------------------- CHECK OUT MY POPULAR PLAYLISTS What To Do If You’re Struggling With A Breakup: https://youtube.com/playlist?list=PLmQPAvaZEZ-ZmFr23H82KTtd4DaR93fTG Do You Chase Love From Emotionally Unavailable Men? Watch This: https://youtube.com/playlist?list=PLmQPAvaZEZ-b9Bh8yyJ0KYHJnIZaqd0A_ Need Help With Dating Boundaries: https://youtube.com/playlist?list=PLmQPAvaZEZ-b4Szb6jd3XfCbGw6Lltir_ ----------------------- 🙋‍♀️ Say hi on socials: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/thelovebydesign Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/thelovebydesign https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=GBv65BzoKMg #emotionallyunavailablemen #AmyKerr #emotionalunavailability