Why Do I Feel Unlovable No Matter How Hard I Try? | Adam Lane Smith The Attachment Specialist

I Wish You Knew Podcast β€’ June 20, 2025
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Welcome to The I Wish You Knew Podcast. The #1 Modern Relationship Podcast Uncovering The Truth About Relationships, Modern Love, & Happiness With co-hosts Adam Lane Smith, The Attachment Specialist @attachmentadam & Andrey Korikov, CEO of Veritas Creative Media. https://veritascreative.media/ If you love relationship content then we have the best quality videos tackling today's modern issues. This channel will help you become a better person through inspiration and understanding like never before. Leave a comment on any of our videos and tell us what you want to see next! Don't forget to like our videos and subscribe to our channel so you don't miss any content! #relationship #relationships #moderndating #modernrelationships #adamlanesmith

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In this episode, guest Emily Humpert returns to explore what it means to build emotional intimacy while carrying avoidant or disorganized attachment wounds. Alongside host Adam Lane Smith, they unpack how emotional intimacy, vulnerability, and acceptance are the keys to real connection. If you've ever struggled to believe in love or feared that being truly seen would lead to rejection, this conversation offers insight, hope, and a practical path toward healing. Topics Covered: πŸ‘‰ The emotional cost of perfectionism and fear of not being enough πŸ‘‰ How avoidant and quiet disorganized attachment styles affect relationships πŸ‘‰ Why self-affirmation often fails for people with attachment wounds πŸ‘‰ The difference between emotional safety and emotional intimacy πŸ‘‰ How emotional intimacy helps rewire the brain and calm the nervous system πŸ‘‰ Building trust through shared problem-solving and conflict resolution πŸ‘‰ Understanding the role of vasopressin in long-term emotional bonding πŸ‘‰ Recognizing freeze responses as survival strategies, not flaws πŸ‘‰ What emotionally safe leadership looks like in romantic partnerships πŸ‘‰ How to find people capable of emotional intimacy and deep connection If you enjoyed watching this episode, you might love 'Why She Doesn’t Want You (Even If She Loves You) '. Watch here: https://youtu.be/aUMUEbwcVuo Need more help with your attachment? Work with Adam: www.adamlanesmith.com ------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------- Follow the β€œI Wish You Knew” Podcast: -------------------------------------------------- Website: https://iwishyouknew.show/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/theiwishyouknewpodcast/ Tiktok: https://www.tiktok.com/@iwishyouknewshow Snapchat: https://www.snapchat.com/iwishyouknewpod Twitter /X: https://twitter.com/iwishyouknewpod Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/4Ncc0MBgm04xTIQ5ByiCGI Apple: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/i-wish-you-knew/id1713427809 ------------------------------------------------- Follow Adam Lane Smith: -------------------------------------------------- Website: https://adamlanesmith.com/ Youtube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCBO093GsMmnA9tb8lZPhbgg Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/attachmentadam/ Twitter /X: https://x.com/AdamLaneSmith Threads: https://www.threads.net/@attachmentadam Tiktok: https://www.tiktok.com/@attachmentbro The next episode drops Thursday :) See you there. Visit: https://iwishyouknew.show/ to learn more about the podcast Chapters: 00:00:00 Struggles with Self-Perception and Relationships 00:06:23 The Impact of Serotonin and GABA on Stress 00:12:50 Understanding Avoidant and Disorganized Attachment Styles 00:18:51 Building Emotional Safety in Relationships 00:24:31 Emotional Expression and Avoidant Traits 00:30:20 Understanding Enduring Love and Relationships 00:36:38 Building Enduring Relationships with Vasopressin Bonding 00:42:51 Building Successful Long-term Relationships 00:48:52 Overcoming the Fear of Conflict 00:54:54 Understanding the Brain's Fight-or-Flight Responses 01:01:00 Importance of Emotional Safety in Relationships 01:06:23 Building Healthy Romantic Relationships through Conflict 01:12:09 Subscribe for Exclusive Early Bird Discounts #emotionalIntimacy #emotionalsafety #attachmentstyles

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