Why Scapegoat Survivors Feel Unsafe Showing Anger

Jay Reid - Recovery from Narcissistic Abuse May 2, 2025
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�� NEW VIDEOS POSTED EVERY FRIDAY I help adult scapegoat survivors who were domineered, devalued and undermined by a narcissistically abusive parent go from hiding their strengths, feeling isolated and disconnected, seeing themselves as defective, assuming they do not deserve to be listened to, feeling guilty for putting themselves first and feeling undeserving of good relationships  to understanding that this abuse was not their fault, protecting themselves from narcissistic abusers today, knowing how to find and connect to safe people and living in defiance of the narcissistic abuser’s rules so that they feel safe to: pursue their own happiness, succeed, speak up, trust others to hear and support them, assert what they want and don’t want in relationships, know they deserve good relationships and make guilt-free choices based on what’s best for themselves.  �� FREE copy of my eBook, “Surviving Narcissistic Abuse as the Scapegoat” https://lp.jreidtherapy.com/optin

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In my latest video, I explain why scapegoat survivors often feel unsafe expressing anger, even when it’s justified. You’ll learn: • Why anger felt dangerous in childhood • The hidden ways survivors mute this emotion • How the 3 Pillars of Recovery help you reclaim it safely • A powerful case example that brings it all together Prefer reading? I’ve also published a written version of this video on Substack: 👉 scapegoatsurvivors.substack.com It’s free to join, and the comments section is open to connect with others on this path. Resources mentioned in this video: A basic primer on scapegoating dynamics in the narcissistic family How a narcissistic family gets a child to become the scapegoat https://youtu.be/I9dBdomJyQc Free Webinar on how NOT trying to control your thoughts & feelings can help your recovery from narcissistic abuse: The Key to Recovery from Narcissistic Abuse https://lp.jreidtherapy.com/the-key-to-recovery-from-narcissistic-abuse-webinar2-8931 Check out Life Move #7 on How to Understand and Use Your anger in my online course: Level II - The Empowerment Blueprint for Scapegoat Survivors https://lp.jreidtherapy.com/empowerment-blueprint-for-adult-scapegoat-survivors Check out my all-new substack! Get written summaries of this video and many others. Interact with other scapegoat survivors in the comments section. https://scapegoatsurvivors.substack.com/

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