Why We Always Forget What Matters Most (& Why That's Okay)

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🚨Every time I get sick, I swear I'll never take my health for granted again. Every time I recover, I forget instantly. Why can't we just remember what matters? Maybe we're not supposed to… Josh Allan Dykstra gets vulnerable about being sick, losing his energy, and the frustrating cycle of promising himself he'll remember — then completely forgetting as soon as he feels better. The same thing happens when someone dies: we swear we'll cherish every moment with loved ones. And then we don't. We always forget. This week we're exploring why this cycle exists, what it reveals about being human, and why the forgetting might actually be a vital part of what makes life rich and meaningful. What you'll discover in this episode: * Why being sick makes us painfully aware of energy (and why health makes us forget instantly) * The torture of "resting more" when all you want to do is DO * How we take for granted the very people we treasure most * Why we can't seem to hold onto what we promise ourselves we'll remember * What if life is actually ABOUT the cycle of remembering and forgetting? * Why the forgetting might be the point, not the problem * How the rhythm of learning, failing, paying attention, and stumbling again creates meaning 🏴‍☠️ The uncomfortable truth: We swear we'll remember. We promise ourselves this time will be different. We'll never take our health for granted. We'll cherish every moment with loved ones. We'll stay present and grateful. And then... we forget. Every single time. We get caught back up in the race of life, completely unaware of that foggy, energy-depleted state we were just in — like that version of us never existed. It's maddening. Why can't we just REMEMBER what matters? 🚀 The optimistic rebellion: What if life was actually about the cycle of remembering and forgetting and remembering? What if some meaningful part of what makes life rich and enjoyable is the rhythm of learning then failing, paying attention then stumbling, then trying again? If that's the point, then the forgetting would be a vital part. Not a bug — a feature. And the goal would be just to keep practicing. Maybe, just maybe, we can remember to do that. This episode will help you stop beating yourself up for forgetting and start embracing the practice of remembering again. 🔥 TIMESTAMPS: 00:06 - I've been sick 01:08 - Being sick makes us painfully aware of energy 01:25 - "Your job is to rest" (the torture of not DOING) 01:50 - This time I'll remember... but I never do 02:28 - The same thing happens with death 02:50 - Why can't we just remember what matters? 03:10 - What if the cycle IS the point? 03:45 - The goal is just to keep practicing 📄 Read the full transcript with all source links: https://joshallan.com/2024/11/09/remembering-forgetting-remembering/ CONNECT WITH JOSH: 🎤 Speaking: https://joshallan.com 📱 LinkedIn: https://linkedin.com/in/joshallan 📧 Newsletter: https://joshallan.com/blog #Illness #Sickness #Health #Recovery #Energy #Gratitude #BeingHuman #Mindfulness #LifeLessons #HelloTomorrow #RememberingAndForgetting #Presence