Decode Secret Speech

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The narcissist's communication is a cipher, it is coded. Here are two simple rules: 1. The narcissist is never sad - and always mad (at you) and bad; and 2. When the narcissist says "I am bad" (is ostensibly repentant), he means to say "I am afraid" (of the consequences of his actions) Envelope: reasonable, flexible/compromising, socially-acceptable, commonsensical Hidden/occult coded message which triggers (pushes buttons) based on shared past experiences and speech acts Hidden not accessible or comprehensible, so people tend to think that something is wrong with you when you try to share it and enlighten them Techniques: Countrtfactuality or non-facticity: big picture agreed, now to the details (shared psychosis) Victim stance and language never mind what you do or say, you are always the abuser (role): comfort zone, projective identification Projection because imagined victimhood is confabulated: encouraging ego dystony, shame, guilt tripping, self doubt Gaslighting via equivocation (“maybe”), challenge to reality testing, rewriting history Hostility disguised as formality Manipulativeness and coercion, provocation Ignoring you and your input/requests Malingering, procrastination Perfectionism Forgetfulness Neglect Truancy intentional inefficiency stubbornness pseudo-stupidity outright sabotage Use lawyers to respond Palindromic Speech There are three types of manipulative speech: Victim Child Psychopathic Lying and Confabulating Abusing Speech Acts: Three Examples Big Picture Evasiveness Alloplastic Defenses and Shifting Blame Passive-aggressive Gaslighting No Reasoning with the Mentally Ill Find and Buy MOST of my BOOKS and eBOOKS in my Amazon Store: https://www.amazon.com/stores/page/60F8EC8A-5812-4007-9F2C-DFA02EA713B3