Esther says "Run!" | Where Should We Begin? with Esther Perel

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On this week's episode of Where Should We Begin? with Esther Perel: " 'Im often asked: Do I ever tell someone "Run! Get out! Leave!" This time: I do." - Esther Perel Does loving him come with a price? After four months of dating, he’s asking her to cut ties with all of her exes. Is this a sign of love and commitment—or a red flag? In this episode, Esther unpacks the deeper dynamics at play: boundaries, control, trust, and the stories we tell ourselves about loyalty. Esther challenges the caller to consider what she may be giving up in the name of love—and what it might cost her in the long run. Topic: Dating & Romantic Consumerism Chapters 00:00 Introduction: The Therapist's Dilemma 00:54 Client's Relationship Background 03:34 Cultural Differences and Relationship Dynamics 04:49 Possessiveness and Trust Issues 19:59 Revelation: The Married Boyfriend 22:34 Navigating Complex Relationship Conditions 26:02 The Complexity of Relationships 26:24 Navigating Trust and Betrayal 27:10 The Old System of Relationships 27:51 Questioning the Future 29:10 Concerns and Reassurances 32:06 Background and Personal History 40:57 The Price of Love 45:11 Final Thoughts and Advice About Where Should We Begin?: Every Monday morning, step into the office of iconic psychotherapist Esther Perel and listen in as real people in search of insight bare the raw, intimate, and profound details of their stories. From breakups and open relationships to workplace conflicts and fractures in the family, it’s a place to hear our own stories reflected in the lives of others. About Esther Perel: Psychotherapist, relationship expert, and New York Times bestselling author Esther Perel is recognized as one of today’s most insightful and original voices on modern relationships. Fluent in nine languages, she helms a therapy practice in New York City and serves as an organizational consultant for Fortune 500 companies around the world. Her celebrated TED Talks have garnered more than 40 million views and her bestselling books, Mating in Captivity and The State of Affairs, are global phenomena translated into more than 30 languages. Esther is also the host of the hit podcast Where Should We Begin? which is available on Apple Podcasts. Learn more at EstherPerel.com or by following @EstherPerelOfficial on Instagram.