“He STOLE My Money & Ruined My Life” Anchal’s Narcissistic Stalker Story | A Millennial Mind
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Why do smart, strong women fall for toxic people? This week on A Millennial Mind, Anchal returns to share the full, unfiltered truth about being love-bombed, manipulated, defrauded and stalked by someone she thought she could trust. I’ve known Anchal for a long time now - but I never knew the depth of what she survived. This isn’t just a “bad breakup story.” It’s a traumatic experience of narcissistic abuse, coercive control, love bombing, gaslighting, trauma bonds, financial manipulation, stalking behaviours and the psychology behind why victims stay. But most importantly: how she rebuilt her life, healed her self-trust, and took her power back. If you’ve ever questioned your intuition, blamed yourself for ignoring red flags, or felt ashamed for being manipulated — this episode will change the way you see yourself forever. 💚Who This Episode Is For: Women who’ve experienced love bombing, people pleasing, guilt-tripping or emotional manipulation Anyone recovering from a toxic relationship, narcissistic partner or financial betrayal People who want to understand the psychology of narcissists and trauma bonds Survivors of stalking, harassment, obsession, coercive control or emotional abuse Anyone who wants to rebuild boundaries, confidence and self-trust ✍🏼What You’ll Learn: How narcissists use love bombing, guilt and mirroring to gain control Why strong, independent women still get targeted How manipulation escalates into financial fraud, stalking + psychological fear The mindset traps that keep victims from leaving How to recognise early red flags before they escalate How to rebuild your identity after abuse, trauma and shame Why it is never the victim’s fault Real examples on how to rebuild peace, safety and boundaries 00:00 Introduction to Stalking and Emotional Abuse 00:53 The Start of a Manipulative Relationship 01:28 Guest Introduction and Personal Impact 02:37 Reconnecting After Three Years 04:25 The Love Bombing Experience 07:13 Financial Manipulation and Guilt 17:21 Realization and Confrontation 30:42 Financial Support and Family Dynamics 31:24 The Fraud Unfolds 32:02 Emotional Turmoil and Realization 34:30 Intervention and Confrontation 40:06 The Aftermath and Stalking 53:10 Seeking Justice and Police Involvement 01:03:17 The Arrest and Court Proceedings 01:04:14 Facing the Stalker in Court 01:08:32 The Impact on Mental Health and Work 01:10:40 Coping Mechanisms and Therapy 01:16:33 Family Support and Therapy Challenges 01:20:14 Healing and Self-Worth 01:31:57 Resilience and Accountability 01:35:47 Final Thoughts and Gratitude 🔔 Subscribe for more discussions on mental health, personal growth, and healing! / @shivanipaupodcast ✨ Connect with Millennial Mind ✨ Podcast Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/amillennialmind Shivani Pau Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/shivani.pau Subscribe on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/shivanipaupodcast Performance Planner: https://my-performance-planner.myshopify.com/ Let Me Change Your Mind 🧠
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