Why you SHOULDN'T do everything your parents say... #perspective
Shivani Pau
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Welcome to A Millennial Mind! I'm a British South Asian woman with a law degree and leadership training from Warwick Business School, and a TEDx speaker helping women get unstuck from self-doubt and find the inner confidence they already have. After years as a change management consultant, I saw women needed more than business advice. They needed permission to heal from people-pleasing, set boundaries, and honour both their culture and themselves. That's why I created this podcast (Top 1% globally). Each week, I speak with therapists, researchers, and change makers, offering science-backed tools for: ✓ Healing from cultural trauma ✓ Setting guilt-free boundaries ✓ Navigating societal expectations ✓ Breaking free from self doubt If you've ever felt torn between honouring your roots and building your wings, you're in the right place. New episodes every TUESDAY! 🎟️ Workshops: shivanipau.com/workshop 💼 Speaking: [email protected] 📱 Instagram: @shivanipau | LinkedIn: /shivanipau
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In this deep and insightful episode, I sit down with Jay Alderton, a former soldier, fitness coach, entrepreneur, and mindset expert, to explore the true meaning of discipline, confidence, and success. Jay shares candid stories from his experiences in the Army, his personal mental breakdown, and the life lessons he has learned along the way. We discuss how to effectively set habits, overcome procrastination, and build resilience. Jay emphasises the importance of doing hard things to make life easier and offers actionable advice for making significant mindset shifts. Whether you struggle with maintaining discipline or finding balance in life, this conversation offers valuable insights that can transform how you see yourself and your journey. Don't miss out on this powerful discussion! 00:00 Introduction: Overcoming Procrastination 00:20 Building Confidence Through Mistakes 00:42 The Psychology of Discipline and Success 09:42 The Power of Accountability 12:29 Leading by Example: Teaching Discipline to Kids 17:04 The Importance of Hard Conversations 23:13 Understanding Procrastination and Fear of Success 27:23 Defining Success and Personal Growth 28:12 The Cost of Success: Personal Sacrifices 29:40 Recalibrating Priorities 30:03 Balancing Selfishness and Selflessness 31:00 Reflecting on Achievements and Mental Health 31:34 Empathy and Energy Management 34:20 Setting Realistic Goals and Habits 38:23 Building Confidence Through Action 45:18 Handling Criticism and Seeking Approval 53:39 Balancing Success and Personal Fulfillment 🔔 Subscribe for more discussions on mental health, personal growth, and healing! / @shivanipaupodcast KEEP IN TOUCH: 🌍 My website - www.shivanipau.com 📸 Instagram - / shivani.pau
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