Why Narcissists Don't Feel Regret, How They Test You & What's Really at Their Core | Dr. Les Carter

Kerry McAvoy, PhD November 24, 2025
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Dr. Les Carter has spent decades studying narcissists, and in this retrospective, he reveals what most people miss until it's too late.  Narcissists seem so perfect at first—charming, attentive, interested in everything about you. But something felt off, didn't it? We revisit five groundbreaking conversations about what's really happening behind the mask: why they can't feel regret, how they gather information like they're building a case file on you, and the warning signs that someone is presenting 'as if' they're safe when they're anything but. Get a glimpse into the weekly Substack newsletter with this week’s complimentary copy. Sign up today using this link: https://substack.com/@breakingfreenarcabuse Dr. Carter may have produced his last video, but his wisdom continues on his YouTube channel, Surviving Narcissism: https://www.youtube.com/@SurvivingNarcissism Thank you, Dr. Les Carter, for all your wonderful work. You have made the world a more lovely, enlightened place.  DR. LES CARTER is a retired clinical psychotherapist, best-selling author, and expert on narcissistic abuse who hosts the popular YouTube channel "Surviving Narcissism". With over 40 years of experience in private practice, he is a specialist in anger management and narcissistic personality disorder, helping people understand and heal from narcissistic abuse. ******************* Get the RECLAIM YOU app! https://studio.com/drkerry FEELING STUCK? Take my FREE “Toxic or Troubled?” survey to discover your relationship type and get instant access to a complete, private mini-course—educational overviews, reflective questions, grounding techniques, and new strategies tailored to your situation. ▶ Start here: https://kerrymcavoyphd.com/toxic-or-troubled-survey/ READY TO TAKE THE NEXT STEP? • First Steps to Leaving online course – A step-by-step plan to safely and confidently leave a toxic partner: https://kerrymcavoyphd.com/course • Toxic-Free Relationship Club – Weekly group coaching, monthly book reads, access to past webinars, and Dr. McAvoy’s full online course: https://kerrymcavoyphd.com/club/ • Group Programs– Healing Strong, Relationship Reset, and more: https://kerrymcavoyphd.com/ STAY CONNECTED & SUPPORTED • Weekly “Breaking Free from Narcissistic Abuse” Substack newsletter – Insights, stories, and tools for your healing journey: https://breakingfreenarcabuse.substack.com/ • Follow Dr. McAvoy: - YouTube: @kerrymcavoyphd - Instagram: @kerrymcavoyphd - Facebook: @kerrymcavoyphd • Email: [email protected] • Website: https://www.breakingfreenarcissisticabuse.com/ READ MY STORY “LOVE YOU MORE: The Harrowing Tale of Lies, Sex Addiction, & Double Cross” Available now: https://amzn.to/3NVMBXO ABOUT DR. KERRY McAVOY Kerry Kerr McAvoy, Ph.D., is a psychologist, author, and expert on cultivating healthy relationships, deconstructing narcissism, and understanding complex trauma. A survivor herself, her memoir “Love You More” offers an uncensored glimpse into the dynamics of narcissistic abuse. Music from #InAudio: https://inaudio.org/ “Playful” & “Sax as Life” DISCLAIMER: This channel provides all content, resources, and services for educational and informational purposes only. They are not intended to substitute for professional therapy, counseling, medical treatment, or legal advice. Viewing or engaging with this content does not create a client-therapist relationship. If you are experiencing a crisis or mental health emergency, please call 911 (or your local emergency number) or seek immediate help from a licensed professional. 0:00 - Introduction: Thanksgiving Special with Dr. Les Carter 0:33 - Tribute: Thank You Dr. Carter for Retiring 1:50 - Topic: What's Inside a Narcissist's Mind? 2:35 - Clip 1: The Core of Narcissism - Control and Self-Absorption 4:03 - Poor Insight and Lack of Self-Examination 5:31 - The Nicest Person Syndrome: Who Gets Targeted? 6:40 - Clip 2: Do Narcissists Feel Regret or Remorse? 7:21 - Questions Narcissists Can't Answer 9:17 - Red Flag: Too Quick to Latch On 11:41 - Reclaim You App Launch 13:01 - Clip 3: First Interview - Why Boundaries Don't Work 13:33 - Narcissists Are Empty Inside 14:22 - Feed Me: The External Need for Validation 16:00 - Signs You're With a Narcissist 17:49 - They Won't Take Relationship Responsibility 19:16 - Clip 4: Recognizing Healthy vs. Unhealthy Conflict 20:23 - Healthy Relationships Require Empathy and Freedom 21:27 - The Power of Time and Mutuality 22:42 - Final Thank You to Dr. Les Carter 23:08 - Happy Thanksgiving from Team Healthy

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