What Causes Rejection (According to Psychology)

Dr Thomas Smithyman June 7, 2025
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I'm Thomas, a PhD clinical psychologist and author helping you optimize your social and psychological health. Get my book here: https://geni.us/DatingWithoutFear Join my newsletter: https://drthomassmithyman.beehiiv.com/subscribe Media and Business Contact: [email protected] Disclaimer: This channel is for informational & entertainment purposes only. It does not substitute therapy or constitute a therapist-client relationship. I encourage everyone to consider finding a therapist. If you are having a crisis, call your local crisis hotline. My videos are general in focus, and I can’t give advice for your specific case. Thanks for watching and reading—Thomas.

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For more on psychology and dating, you can get my book here: https://geni.us/DatingWithoutFear MY NEWSLETTER https://mailchi.mp/09fac9712b6c/thomassmithymanphd MY BOOK https://geni.us/DatingWithoutFear CITATIONS So I realized I looked at more thirty articles for this video -- far too many for this space -- so I'm just including some key references here. Apostolou, M., & Eleftheriou, C. (2022). What constitutes bad flirting: An explorative study of dealbreakers. Personality and Individual Differences, 194, 111665. https://doi.org/10.1016/j.paid.2022.111665 Csajbók, Zsófia & White, Kaitlyn & Jonason, Peter Karl. (2023). Six “red flags” in relationships: From being dangerous to gross and being apathetic to unmotivated. Personality and Individual Differences. 204. 112048. 10.1016/j.paid.2022.112048. Jonason, Peter Karl & White, Kaitlyn & Al-Shawaf, Laith. (2020). Should I stay or should I go: Individual differences in response to romantic dealmakers and dealbreakers. Personality and Individual Differences. 164. 110120. 10.1016/j.paid.2020.110120. Jonason, Peter Karl & White, Kaitlyn & Lowder, Abigail & Al-Shawaf, Laith. (2022). To see or not to see (again): Dealbreakers and dealmakers in relation to social inclusion. Frontiers in Psychology. 13. 1019272. 10.3389/fpsyg.2022.1019272. Marchi, Alessia & Csajbók, Zsófia & Jonason, Peter Karl. (2023). 24 ways to be compatible with your relationship partners: Sex differences, context effects, and love styles. Personality and Individual Differences. 206. 112134. 10.1016/j.paid.2023.112134. Neuberg, S. L., Kenrick, D. T., & Schaller, M. (2011). Human threat management systems: self-protection and disease avoidance. Neuroscience and biobehavioral reviews, 35(4), 1042–1051. https://doi.org/10.1016/j.neubiorev.2010.08.011 Söylemez, Sinem & Kapucu, Aycan. (2024). Disgust as a basic, sexual, and moral emotion. Cognitive processing. 25. 10.1007/s10339-024-01180-6. DISCLAIMER This information is for educational purposes only and is not intended to be a substitute for clinical care. Please consult a health care provider for guidance specific to your case.

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